(7) Joseph then brought his father Jacob and presented him to Pharaoh; and Jacob greeted Pharaoh. (8) Pharaoh asked Jacob, “How many are the years of your life?” (9) And Jacob answered Pharaoh, “The years of my sojourn [on earth] are one hundred and thirty. Few and hard have been the years of my life, nor do they come up to the life spans of my ancestors during their sojourns.” (10) Then Jacob bade Pharaoh farewell, and left Pharaoh’s presence.
The reasonable answer to “How old are you” is “130”. Why would Jacob put in the other things?
We can’t control most of how our body ages physically. What we can control is how we use our body within the limitations that it gives us. If we move as much as we can, and engage socially, intellectually, and spiritually as much as we can, that will help us take control of our aging process as much as possible.
Reb Zusya seemed worried one day and his students asked him why. He said, “I’m not worried that when I die I’ll be asked why I wasn’t like Abraham, because I’m not Abraham. And I’m not worried that when I die I’ll be asked why I wasn’t like Moses, because I’m not Moses. I’m worried that I’ll be asked why I wasn’t like Zusya!”
כמה ימי שני חייך. פשט לפי שראהו זקן מאד ושערות ראשו וזקנו לבנות מרוב הזקנה שאל כן והוא ענהו ימי מגורי שלשים ומאת שנה מעט ורעים כלומר מעטים הם שנותי אלא מתוך רעות שהיה לי קפצה עלי זקנה. מדרש בשעה שאמר יעקב מעט ורעים היו אמר לו הקב"ה אני מלטתיך מעשו ומלבן והחזרתי לך דינה גם יוסף ואתה מתרעם על חייך שהם מעט ורעים חייך שמנין התיבות שיש מן ויאמר עד בימי מגורי כך יחסרו משנותיך שלא תחיה כחיי יצחק אביך והם ל"ג תיבות ובמנין זה נחסרו מחייו שהרי יצחק חי ק"פ שנה ויעקב לא חי אלא קמ"ז:
"How many are the years of your life?"
Simple meaning (p'shat): Because Pharaoh saw that Jacob looked very old, and the hair of his head and his beard were white from an abundance of old age, Pharaoh asked this. Jacob answered him, "the years of my sojourn [on earth] are one hundred and thirty. Few and hard have been the years of my life," meaning, my years may have been few, but because of hard things that happened to me, old age has come upon me.
Life-lesson meaning (midrash): At the time that Jacob said, "Few and hard have been the years of my life," the Holy Blessed One said to him, "I rescued you from Esau and Laban, I returned to you Dinah and Joseph, yet you are discontented with your life, saying that [your years] were few and hard! By your life, the number of words that are from "Pharaoh asked" until "years of my sojourn," such shall be missing from your years, so that you will not live as long as your father Isaac!" These were 33 words, and this number of years were missing from his life, as Isaac lived 180 years, but Jacob only lived 147.
It is easy to focus on the negatives in our life. However, many positive things have indubitably happened as well (and after it, it could always be worse, but if it can’t it can only get better). Psychology teaches us that people who have a more positive perspective tend to live longer and be happier. Perhaps if Jacob had not focused on how terrible his life was, he might have both had better and more years.
When life hands you a round-shaped food, focus on the bagel, not the hole.